Why trouble ourselves with refilling that barrel in the first place? It is just going to continue leaking…Why Bother?
Can we just accept the idea that we are going to have bouts of low self esteem occasionally, and that is perfectly normal and to be expected?
Maybe and maybe not…
It is awfully tough going through life with an empty barrel.
Just imagine how it would be to go through the day; discouraged, depressed, disappointed, dejected… and all those other feelings of being marginalized.
Wait! You don’t have to `imagine’ what it would be like. You know, because you have had those feelings. Haven’t you? Who hasn’t?
I don’t believe there is a single person in the world who hasn’t had those feelings. The trick is not to learn how to avoid those feelings. We can’t avoid them. There is a world out there that keeps getting in our way.
We find that repeating positive quotes about life don’t quite carry us along by themselves.
So, we can’t realistically avoid those things that are continually depleting all the good stuff in the barrel, such as:
- Our Ego
- Our Sense of Worth
- Our Sense of our Well-being
- Our Confidence
- Our —- (there is a long list)
So, if we cannot avoid those incidents which cause our poor tired old barrel from leaking, what can we do?
We can keep refiling that barrel.
We can explore things such as ways to improve body language (that well may impact on how people react to you. We can explore things such as effective communication strategies, and effective communication techniques and other methods to raise our sometimes low self esteem…
All of those things are important; just imagine a concept, a tool that encompasses all those features – and more.
Remember in the Introduction I related to you this paragraph:
‘I told the agents that it is their job to find a way to keep refilling the barrel. Their job was not to find ‘a’ way, but to find `their’ way`. For, not to find ‘their’ way was to fall into despair, mediocrity, depression, and all the terrible things that presage failure.
It wasn’t `desirable’ to find their unique way of refilling the barrel; it was absolutely essential; it was critical!’
For some people, the answer comes as a bit of a surprise. I remember well the busy, busy days of running an insurance agency. There was an endless list of problems that needed addressing.
Agents, like everyone else, had relationship problems, finance challenges, production problems, marriage problems, etc.
Well, their problems became in part my problems, and they never let up.
I began to take long walks in the afternoon,
and began to take the same route day after day. And, then a strange thing happened.
I found that often I could not really remember the walk’s details, e.g. stopping at pedestrian crossings, speaking to someone on the walk, etc.
But the most amazing thing was that I returned – refreshed, and having answers to some, if not all, the problems I had when I began the walk!
I discovered that I was actually doing a walking meditation – as my friends described it. I don’t know if that is an accurate description. But what I do know is that walk refilled my spirit.
I had found a way to refill my barrels.
Over the years, I have refined that method, but it always (to this day) consisted of a quiet time – devoid of any conscious thought. To me, that worked, and I have used it consistently.
My Barrel is seldom drained, because of that one method I had discovered accidentally.
The original purpose of the walk was to simply escape the office for a few minutes.
We never know how the answer will come – the answer to refill our barrel – but come it must for us to continue living a full life.
Maybe phrases such as` mindfulness and meditation’ may seem a bit foreign to you; hut in the attached articles, you may find that some of these `crazy` ideas may strike a responsive chord in you.
In the following pages we will see different methods, some of which you may be comfortable with – but others which may seem a bit exotic but which many individuals use and find valuable.
They may mystify you – but you may find one that fits you perfectly!