The Surprise Benefits of – – `The Walk’

Why trouble ourselves with refilling that barrel in the first place? It is just going to continue leaking…Why Bother?

Can we just accept the idea that we are going to have bouts of low self esteem occasionally, and that is perfectly normal and to be expected?

Maybe and maybe not…

It is awfully tough going through life with an empty barrel.

Just imagine how it would be to go through the day; discouraged, depressed, disappointed, dejected… and all those other feelings of being marginalized.

Wait! You don’t have to `imagine’ what it would be like. You know, because you have had those feelings.  Haven’t you?  Who hasn’t?

I don’t believe there is a single person in the world who hasn’t had those feelings. The trick is not to learn how to avoid those feelings. We can’t avoid them. There is a world out there that keeps getting in our way.

We find that repeating positive quotes about life don’t quite carry us along by themselves.

So, we can’t realistically avoid those things that are continually depleting all the good stuff in the barrel, such as:

  • Our Ego
  • Our Sense of Worth
  • Our Sense of our Well-being
  • Our Confidence
  • Our —- (there is a long list)

So, if we cannot avoid those incidents which cause our poor tired old barrel from leaking, what can we do?

We can keep refiling that barrel.

We can explore things such as ways to improve body language (that well may impact on how people react to you. We can explore things such as effective communication strategies, and effective communication techniques and other methods to raise our sometimes low self esteem…

All of those things are important; just imagine a concept, a tool that encompasses all those features – and more.

Remember in the Introduction I related to you this paragraph:

‘I told the agents that it is their job to find a way to keep refilling the barrel. Their job was not to find ‘a’ way, but to find `their’ way`.  For, not to find ‘their’ way was to fall into despair, mediocrity, depression, and all the terrible things that presage failure.

It wasn’t `desirable’ to find their unique way of refilling the barrel; it was absolutely essential; it was critical!’

For some people, the answer comes as a bit of a surprise. I remember well the busy, busy days of running an insurance agency.  There was an endless list of problems that needed addressing.

Agents, like everyone else, had relationship problems, finance challenges, production problems, marriage problems, etc.

Well, their problems became in part my problems, and they never let up.

I began to take long walks in the afternoon,

and began to take the same route day after day. And, then a strange thing happened.

I found that often I could not really remember the walk’s details, e.g. stopping at pedestrian crossings, speaking to someone on the walk, etc.

But the most amazing thing was that I returned – refreshed, and having answers to some, if not all, the problems I had when I began the walk!

I discovered that I was actually doing a walking meditation – as my friends described it. I don’t know if that is an accurate description. But what I do know is that walk refilled my spirit.

I had found a way to refill my barrels.

Over the years, I have refined that method, but it always (to this day) consisted of a quiet time – devoid of any conscious thought. To me, that worked, and I have used it consistently.

My Barrel is seldom drained, because of that one method I had discovered accidentally.

The original purpose of the walk was to simply escape the office for a few minutes.

We never know how the answer will come – the answer to refill our barrel – but come it must for us to continue living a full life.

Maybe phrases such as` mindfulness and meditation’ may seem a bit foreign to you; hut in the attached articles, you may find that some of these `crazy` ideas may strike a responsive chord in you.

In the following pages we will see different methods, some of which you may be comfortable with – but others which may seem a bit exotic but which many individuals use and find valuable.

They may mystify you – but you may find one that fits you perfectly!

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To some, the idea of Meditation is that of a very slender individual sitting on the floor – cross-legged – and mesmerized by a large candle directly in front of him/her

Likewise – to some, the idea of Manifestation is to have one’s head engulfed in a cloud like haze – while half-dreaming of something else – or somewhere else – other than where he/she is at the moment.

In a way I suppose that each idea has a germ of truth in it – but, let’s explore a bit further.

Before we go any further, let me state that Meditation is not just focusing on positive quotes about life. And it is not an escape from reality. Rather it is simply a way to have increased awareness of reality. That is a rather key point.

Meditation

One often hears the expression `mindfulness and meditation’ and it is easy to toss off such an expression. But when we closely examine that saying, it makes all the sense in the world.

It simply means that the find is fully attending to what is happening.  So simplistic, and yet who among us is able to concentrate 100% on the matter at hand for more than a few seconds.

      Wouldn’t it be great if we could?

So to learn meditation and learn different types of meditation may deliver some pretty dramatic improvements in our lives.

According to more than one study, about 8% of the US population meditates. An interesting figure also is that about 8.1% of Americans have a Masters or higher degree.

Side note: about 91% (according to one survey) have tried drugs at least once in their life.

Note: The author is not suggesting any correlation with these statistics, but they are interesting!

An individual may say that we all meditate – assuming that at some point we `think’ about anything at all – and for a few moments that is the only subject in our mind.

It is actually difficult to imagine a day in which we don’t `think` about something – hard.

The idea kind of removes `weirdness` from the subject of Meditation, doesn’t it?

Some interesting quotes on Meditation:

“The Goal of meditation isn’t to control your thoughts – it is to stop letting them control you” – Anonymous

“The quieter you become the more you can hear.” Anonymous

“Go within every day and find the inner strength so that the world will not blow your candle out.” – Katherine Dunham

“Meditation brings wisdom; lack of meditation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what holds you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.” Buddha

“Meditation is one of the ways in which the spiritual man keeps himself awake.” Thomas Merton

“Meditation is like a gym in which you develop the powerful mental muscles of calm and insight.” Ajahn Brahm

Manifestation

Wow, talk about a source for deriding the poor soul who believes in and actually practices Manifestation. What a loser that poor individual is. Hah!

Poor misguided individuals such as:

  • Arnold Schwarzenegger
  • Jay Z
  • Conor McGregor
  • Oprah Winfrey
  • Lady Gaga
  • Steve Harvey
  • Will Smith
  • Denzil Washington

Man, we don’t want to be counted among these nobodies, do we?

OK – let’s suppose that there just may be something to Manifestation, after all. Just what is it?

How exactly would you describe Manifestation?

Again, as we said about Meditation – if we think at all (The author is assuming that the individuals who are still here – are the `Thinkers’ among the general population) we already are meditating and manifesting.

Our thinking and concentration takes many shapes:

       

 

 

 

 

We all do it – both manifesting and meditating – it is just that without training and the knowledge of just `How to do it` – sometimes (quite often) our undisciplined meditating and manifesting work against us more than `for us`.

Now – here is a huge secret: There is no secret formula.  The basic concept is the same in all the approaches.

The difference is the technique used – and that is why this site presents to you the choice of techniques. The technique used for your neighbor may not   be the one that best resonates with you.

So, explore these different approaches – pick the one that really speaks to `you`.  Each one has been carefully selected. If you choose one –and perchance you did not choose the best one for you – and you have complied with their Refund policy and have not received a refund – I am here to get it for you.

With that said, let me leave you with one thought:

You are already meditating and manifesting –

Why not do it the right way – and benefit HUGELY by doing it correctly?

“Thoughts don’t become things; thoughts ARE things.”
― Eric Michael Leventhal

“When people want success but visualize failure, they attract failure because they don’t know about the power of repetition/visualization.”
― Hina Hashmi

“Those who find courage to pursue their dreams, manifest gladness of their souls.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita

“Experiencing life with your whole heart will not only bring more of what you desire but often it will surpass what you could have imagined!”
― Heidi Reagan

To sum it all up, the fact that the reason so many of us have problems, is that periodically we have bouts of low self esteem and we just don’t feel up to addressing the concerns of our lives.

If we had high self esteem, the problems and concerns would be the same size, but we would be bigger and stronger – and therefore be able to handle them better.

Hence, the name of this little site – The Leaking Barrel

But, let’s leave with a laugh:

“To earn the trust of your meditation, you have to visit it every day. It’s like having a puppy.”
Chelsea Richer

 

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The Congressman With Low Self Esteem

Something happened a short while ago that I wanted to share with you. It was a fascinating study of body language interpretation, and it actually falls into the arena of any communication endeavor, social or business.

It illustrates how low self esteem can torpedo any situation.

Here is what happened:

I was part of a small group standing in a field next to an industrial complex, and the subject being discussed – – -was building another accompanying complex…

The group consisted of two developers, two local politicians, a stock broker who was going to be the `money mover`, and a realtor.

After the meeting, I was driving away with one of the participants, and we began discussing the meeting. We both came to the same conclusion; and, that was – – – – one of the group (actually one of the politicians) was `missing something`.

The use of effective communication strategies was apparently lost on this individual.

He was a great study in what happens when you consider the issue of low self esteem in general conversation / communication.

What an interesting subject; He had definite needs of learning effective communication techniques…and yet it should have been second nature to him.

This was not merely gossiping; it was two students of human nature discussing a fascinating subject – the perception of power, or lack of power!

It really centered around the subject of low self esteem, because when you are suffering from it,

you are seldom at ease in any environment.

When we began the discussion, the first thing we looked at was clothing – was this person dressed any differently than the others?

No.  In fact he was probably dressed better than the others.  One of the developers had on a sweater, and the other had on a windbreaker.  Our subject had a blazer and tie.  No, it was not the clothing.

Was it the posture?  Yes, but only partially.  His posture seemed to indicate that he was eager to please. That is a real killer for those who are in any kind of relational conversation.  Just think how you come across with that attitude: the self-confidence just evaporates.

His overall demeanor and attitude was doubly perplexing because the developers were coming to him for the city’s blessing.  They needed him – and yet, he was so eager to please that he lost the position of authority that he should have had.

He was very willing to laugh at the slightest provocation and seemed to need their approval.

After a short time, the others began to just discuss the matter between themselves, and pretty much ignored him. He became almost irrelevant.

To top off the mix, he was the oldest of the group – complete with white wavy hair, and the looks (until he expressed himself through speaking and posture) of the `elder statesman`.

Yet, he did not carry his age with dignity.

So, what was it that made this politician appear to be lacking? Isn’t that a strange situation – to stand out by a lack?

The more we discussed this individual; it became apparent that he did not have the simple effective communication techniques necessary to carry on a dignified, meaningful dialogue.

Why did this happen?  Somehow, this individual lost his way and his overall self-perception suffered.  You know that we all need injections of self confidence, self esteem periodically, and that of course is the name of this little site – The Leaking Barrel.

Now, if you find that you are not 100% happy with your self confidence which certainly impacts every aspect of life – perhaps it is time to explore some techniques that have helped countless individuals for literally thousands of years–

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